Why one May Need a Girlfriend/Wife? A Pessimistic and Egoistic Response

Table of Contents
  1. 1. Before You Judge Me
  2. 2. Introduction
    1. 2.1. Who Am I?
    2. 2.2. Why Am I Writing this?
    3. 2.3. How I Came up with this?
  3. 3. Why not to Get a Girlfriend
    1. 3.1. There is nothing you cannot do without girlfriend
    2. 3.2. You are risking your life
    3. 3.3. Secretary problem
    4. 3.4. High maintanance cost
      1. 3.4.1. Non-deterministic , too many hidden parameters
    5. 3.5. Love is overrated
    6. 3.6. Joy of missing out the troubles
    7. 3.7. It will not solve your lonliness
    8. 3.8. They cry
    9. 3.9. They are instable
    10. 3.10. Let’s have less problems
  4. 4. Aging - no more beauty
  5. 5. what to do with it?
  6. 6. power process
    1. 6.1. too complicated, the dating ritual, dealing with non-determinism
  7. 7. you allow a dumb person (commoner) to hurt you
  8. 8. it’s not eternal - even if we ignore aging
    1. 8.1. coooking/decor/fashion –> books
  9. 9. same interest (and/or conflict of interest). somebody in your team.
  10. 10. PMS - another complication
    1. 10.1. envying commoners
  11. 11. flirting is contemptuous to me
  12. 12. my background: no girl. learnt cooking/housekeeping,…
  13. 13. I’m just tired. already tired of the arguments I have with others and myself, cannot cope one more
  14. 14. you only feel craving relationship seldom (once in a week for example): you will learn to make yourself happy. I agree that it’s just curing the sign not the trauma, that’s why I’m writing this
  15. 15. when I’m talking about ego: yes, I’m arrogant. I broke multiple times but I unintentionally picked it up again and again. I have accepted it. besides that, I’m the only thing I can prove myself to exist; the rest maybe are all imagination (not probably however).
  16. 16. even as an often-self-centered person, I don’t pay attention to my contradicting feelings. let alone someone else’s
  17. 17. I cannot open up my feelings. I cannot trust.
  18. 18. I am usually suspicious about what the majority do. especially when there is no clear reason.
  19. 19. wrong answer: happiness: weren’t we happy when we were kid? aren’t we happy when we are single? so if there’s something, it must be due to some hormunes. being casterated is better than being all broke (side note: casterated men want women too).
  20. 20. more reliability in problems (that’s not true for big problems like cancer. people are all selfish, (the philosopher who suggested it) and metamorphosis by Kafka)
  21. 21. not being used by others. even if she’s asshole, the probablity of getting something in return seems higher than “friends”. You are in same team probably, even if she’s a bad player.
  22. 22. TV : i don’t watch it but it can be a problem for you. But being forced to have a tv is something to consider. I don’t dislike romantic comedies, it least the insult my sanity less than avengers.
  23. 23. money: i don’t believe that they don’t judge me if I don’t pay. pessimism is my best friend. fuck idealism and embrace facts.
  24. 24. time
  25. 25. difficult to throw away. demanding a lot of energy and less time with friends (I have been one of them).
  26. 26. Wrong answers to why you need a GF:
    1. 26.1. social stigma: first, fuck them. second, if they judge you for what you are, they, their life, and their family are not worth any
  27. 27. Why to get girlfriend:
  28. 28. answer to the stuff you can do:
  29. 29. as you grow older, you are not a cute baby anymore therefore not lovable to many others. you must find someone for yourself. that’s what many other people do, they don’t want to waste their fucks to give to other strangers. basically it’s similar to get a gun since many other people have it. you are not so lovable anymore.
  30. 30. What happens if you don’t
    1. 30.1. helps you to organize your feelings. You won’t give a fuck to assholes
    2. 30.2. It’s worth trying, you can quit anytime you want (that’s a lie)
    3. 30.3. Beauty
    4. 30.4. There are some values which should be served
  31. 31. we only limit our discussion to girlfriend as this subject is less complicated than a legal marriage (e.g. no state regulation, prenups, children)
  32. 32. again egoistic: I’m gonna have one of these. Mine is a lot better than you.

After years of mental struggles, I have finally concluded that it is good to search for love. This post is (probably only) for people who do not have find justification to get a girlfriend/wife; on the other hand, they are skeptical of the troubles of founding an romantic relationship and the perils of being in it. While I do not claim it to be a fully rational and flawless piece, I hope it helps people who are getting torn between their realistic mind and craving emotions.

Before You Judge Me

As I have described below, this post is composed largely based on my emotions and thoughts. I have tried a lot to be honest; to do so, I had to sacrifice generalizability and even politeness to some extent. In some parts I am literally echoing my thoughts; they can be contemptuous and too sexist. Obviously, even I myself do not endorse those thoughts but again, in order to be brutally honest and clearly project my emotions, I had to come up with those words. Before you judge me, please think what would happen to you if everyone else knows all your thoughts and emotions and what will they think of you.

Introduction

Please feel free to skip the introduction and jumping in to the main content. I hate long introductions too and I don’t want to keep you as hostage.
Contradictions in advices

Who Am I?

Why Am I Writing this?

How I Came up with this?

This post is a compilation of what I had written in my diary book; it means

Why not to Get a Girlfriend

There is nothing you cannot do without girlfriend

You are risking your life

عمو حاجی

Secretary problem

High maintanance cost

Non-deterministic , too many hidden parameters

Love is overrated

(Nazis, Saddam, etc.)

Joy of missing out the troubles

It will not solve your lonliness

They cry

They are instable

Let’s have less problems

Aging - no more beauty

what to do with it?

power process

too complicated, the dating ritual, dealing with non-determinism

you allow a dumb person (commoner) to hurt you

it’s not eternal - even if we ignore aging

coooking/decor/fashion –> books

same interest (and/or conflict of interest). somebody in your team.

PMS - another complication

envying commoners

flirting is contemptuous to me

my background: no girl. learnt cooking/housekeeping,…

I’m just tired. already tired of the arguments I have with others and myself, cannot cope one more

# let's not pretend. We all have seen our parents; no matter how much they love each other, they argue often.
# at lest true for me
# let alone nagging (Tolstoy example)

you only feel craving relationship seldom (once in a week for example): you will learn to make yourself happy. I agree that it’s just curing the sign not the trauma, that’s why I’m writing this

when I’m talking about ego: yes, I’m arrogant. I broke multiple times but I unintentionally picked it up again and again. I have accepted it. besides that, I’m the only thing I can prove myself to exist; the rest maybe are all imagination (not probably however).

even as an often-self-centered person, I don’t pay attention to my contradicting feelings. let alone someone else’s

I cannot open up my feelings. I cannot trust.

I am usually suspicious about what the majority do. especially when there is no clear reason.

wrong answer: happiness: weren’t we happy when we were kid? aren’t we happy when we are single? so if there’s something, it must be due to some hormunes. being casterated is better than being all broke (side note: casterated men want women too).

more reliability in problems (that’s not true for big problems like cancer. people are all selfish, (the philosopher who suggested it) and metamorphosis by Kafka)

not being used by others. even if she’s asshole, the probablity of getting something in return seems higher than “friends”. You are in same team probably, even if she’s a bad player.

TV : i don’t watch it but it can be a problem for you. But being forced to have a tv is something to consider. I don’t dislike romantic comedies, it least the insult my sanity less than avengers.

money: i don’t believe that they don’t judge me if I don’t pay. pessimism is my best friend. fuck idealism and embrace facts.

time

difficult to throw away. demanding a lot of energy and less time with friends (I have been one of them).

Wrong answers to why you need a GF:

https://www.elitedaily.com/dating/gentlemen/8-reasons-why-you-need-to-find-your-girlfriend-now
https://www.quora.com/What-is-the-purpose-of-having-a-girlfriend

social stigma: first, fuck them. second, if they judge you for what you are, they, their life, and their family are not worth any

good points

Why to get girlfriend:

Answer to the problems above
Talk about pizza when you are addressing overratedness of love
If your power is not acknowledged you become a villan
If you don’t have a shoulder to cry on when you feel week, you will fall into the self-reinforcing cycle of hatred

answer to the stuff you can do:

Maybe you can do it better with someone else

as you grow older, you are not a cute baby anymore therefore not lovable to many others. you must find someone for yourself. that’s what many other people do, they don’t want to waste their fucks to give to other strangers. basically it’s similar to get a gun since many other people have it. you are not so lovable anymore.

What happens if you don’t

helps you to organize your feelings. You won’t give a fuck to assholes

just like casting all your money out of the window vs lending it to a friend in the time of his difficulty.

It’s worth trying, you can quit anytime you want (that’s a lie)

Beauty

Conclusion

There are some values which should be served

we only limit our discussion to girlfriend as this subject is less complicated than a legal marriage (e.g. no state regulation, prenups, children)

again egoistic: I’m gonna have one of these. Mine is a lot better than you.












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